You’re not one of those couples that wants the surface level stuff. You’ve already tried the date nights and the gratitude journals. Maybe you have even read the John Gottman books. You’ve tried talking through some of the issues you have; but oh my gosh, they end in arguments, they end in blowups. And the disconnect is so huge. Maybe you also have some trauma that is haunting you, weighing you down. You have tried talk therapy before, but the abuse, the neglect, the environmental trauma, the childhood trauma, whatever the trauma is, it still feels like it is following you everywhere. You constantly feel like you are not enough. You feel less than, you are overperforming, and you feel like a shell of a human. You don’t remember the last time you felt carefree or at peace, and the anxiety is eating you whole.
Does this sound familiar?
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You love each other but you’re tired of the same old fights that never seem to end.
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You walk away from arguments feeling unheard, blamed, shut down, defensive.
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You can't agree on some big things like: kids and family; time; sex; mess; or money.
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Little things get blown up into big arguments.
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You feel like if people knew the "real you" they would find you unlovable.
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You keep picking the "wrong" ones to date and don't know why.
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You can't seem to move beyond your past into the life you imagine.
Imagine if:
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Instead of a blowup, it is just a conversation and you can hug and say you're sorry.
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Repairs feel natural and the "roommate" feeling is gone.
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You understand what each other wants and needs; you feel seen.
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You’re feeling safe in your own body and you’re not hijacked by the past.
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The anxiety is quiet; the triggers are less powerful.
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You feel softhearted, grounded and strong.
Everyone's therapy journey is unique; experiences and outcomes may vary.
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You're afraid of drifting so far apart you can't get back that loving feeling.
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The arguments seem to go from 0 to 60 in seconds, and you can't make it stop.
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You feel lonely and on guard.
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You are sleeping on your own side of the bed, not knowing how to reach out.
It doesn't have to be that way. What if you could:
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stop feeling like you need to tip toe around each other.
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feel seen, heard, understood, start laughing together again.
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work together as a team on the same side.
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be able to help each other's dreams and projects come true.
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feel like friends again.
Everyone's therapy journey is unique; results and outcomes may vary.
EMDR for
Trauma & Anxiety
Maybe you have tried talk therapy before but
you still feel stuck.
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You can't shake the feeling that you are undeserving, unloveable, or "not enough".
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You are over performing or hyper-vigilant, just trying to keep afloat.
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You get triggered at work, full of shame, sweating, heart pounding.
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You are avoiding closeness, scared of rejection.
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You feel desperate for loving connection but not sure how to get there.
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You don't know how to handle family or romantic relationships that feel negative, toxic, or draining.
You are hoping things start to change.
You are hoping that:
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The trauma does not haunt you and fades into the background.
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You feel safe in your body.
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You have healthy relationships and end toxic ones.
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The distressing thoughts and images ease up, and you enjoy the present moment again.
Why work with me?
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What you have been though is not too much for me to handle.
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I'm going to listen deeply to your story and hold space for you.
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For couples - I am trained in several effective couples therapy modalities - couples therapy is a big part of my practice.
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For trauma/ anxiety - I will guide you through evidence-based therapy that releases stored trauma from the body and mind, and then support you to integrate your new experiences.
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I am fully certified in EMDR and work with attachment trauma.
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Clients use a Theratapper for EMDR, which is much easier to use than eye movements.
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I am trained in several modalities for both couples and individuals (anxiety/ trauma).
About EMDR
Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) is a profound and evidence-based treatment for trauma, that can release stored trauma from neural networks of the brain. In attachment based EMDR, we work slowly and always at the pace of the client so you feel safe and are not re-traumatized. You do not need to relive traumas to recover from them.
Everyone's therapy journey is unique; results and outcomes may vary.
Issues I treat:
Couples Therapy
I have extensive training in couples therapy and use a blended approach that includes: EFT, Gottman, PACT, IFS, EMDR for couples, and psychdynamic/ object relations.
Treatment is available for presenting issues, including:
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family of origin issues (and in-laws)
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communication
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parenting
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infidelity
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trust and betrayal
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intimacy
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childhood trauma effects
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emotional connection
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household chores
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time together and apart
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finances
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time management
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values
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religion and spirituality
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friendship and fondness
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premarital
EMDR for trauma and anxiety
I have extensive experience working with trauma and anxiety, and use an integrative approach that includes: EMDR, Humanist, CBT, IFS, DBT, Art therapy, Sensory motor psychotherapy, psychodynamic/ object relations, Self In Relationship Psychotherapy.
Treatment is available for presenting issues, including:
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anger management
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coping skills
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emotional regulation
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mood disorders
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peer relationships
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dating
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self-esteem
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sexual abuse
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women's issues
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school issues
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marital/ relationship issues
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family conflict
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infidelity
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personality issues (BPD, NPD)
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divorce
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grief
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family conflict
Individual and Couples Therapy - more info
Anxiety
Do feelings of anxiety and overwhelm overshadow your daily life, making it difficult to find peace and clarity? Learn practical strategies and coping mechanisms to manage anxiety effectively, reclaiming control over your thoughts and emotions.
Depression
Do feelings of loneliness, isolation, low self-esteem, or difficulty making decisions seem to be hard to shake? Therapy can assist you to identify and shift negative thought patterns, learn mindfulness skills, or use EMDR to release blocks and open options for new growth.
Relationships
Are you experiencing frequent conflicts, communication breakdowns, or feelings of disconnection in your relationships? Explore proven techniques and compassionate guidance to navigate relationship challenges, aimed at fostering deeper understanding and connection.
Couples Therapy
You're looking for the deep work, the root cause - to break free from resentments, put strategies in place that work, and actually feel connected again. I specialize in working with relationships - with family, friends, coworkers, spouses/ partners, dating. Using a blend of therapy approaches couples can learn communication skills, deepen emotional bonds, and learn how to repair old hurts.
EMDR for trauma
Does trauma from childhood or a traumatic event affect your daily life and you feel trapped in the old images/ feelings/ and sensations? EMDR is an evidence based model for healing trauma, that works with the body's Adaption Information Processing system to release stored trauma from neural networks of the brain, leading to more adaptive living. I am fully certified in EMDR.
EMDR for couples
Do triggers from the past take on a life of their own in your relationships, leading to dysregulation and conflict? SAFE-EMDR for couples is a gentle method for couples to process their personal issues side by side, to understand how their own traumas impact their relationship today and lessen their impacts, making space for more adaptive interactions.
About Me
I am a Registered Psychotherapist in Ontario, with an MA in Counselling and Psychotherapy from Saint Paul University. I am committed to continuing education in the field of therapy in order to best help clients find relief and positive outcomes. On weekends you will find me hiking, or trying out new recipes (not always being successful at it).
Clients I work best with are couples ready to do the deeper work and practice strategies outside session; and individuals looking to let go of trauma who may have tried talk therapy and want real change.
Credentials
